This is always more obvious in a corporate setting (in my case, the church), as people from all walks of life gather together and we, the church, must be sensitive to the issue of fatherlessness. So this morning I kept running over my favourite question: Why?
Why is it like this? Why just for Father’s Day? Is it simply because men suck?
Well it can’t be just that. I grew up without the one father but can point to the many who filled his role of “godly man” in my life. For every one sucky father there are ten men doing their job, but we don't hear about them - that's boring. There has to be something more.
And then two passages came to mind:
“Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived, and fell into trespass.” – 1 Timothy 2:14
“The woman saw that the tree was good for food and delightful to look at, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom. So she took some of its fruit and ate it; she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made loincloths for themselves. Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden at the time of the evening breeze, and they hid themselves from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. So the Lord God called out to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” – Genesis 3:6-9
Two things seem to be clear:
1) The woman was deceived.
2) It was the man’s fault.
My conclusion: when a man fails his God-designated role as the man it causes more damage than when a woman fails her God-designated role as the woman. Compare the collective gloom of Father's Day with the certainly more joyful Mother's Day - the difference is brutal.
In one sense, I’m a consistent feminist: men suck… and women suck too. Everyone sucks. In another sense, I’m a true feminist: with men… things just suck more.
Including father’s day.