This is an interesting one (this one gave me the idea of “The Romantic Shall Live By Faith.”)
There is something about God declaring us to be righteous in His sight that directly speaks to relationships. God isn’t blind. And we’re not stupid. We all know humans are sinners. But, because of Jesus’ work on the cross, humans can be declared righteous in God’s sight.
In an earlier post I explained how there’s no logic in love. Well, that directly links to this. The reason two guys can look at a girl with one falling in love while the other turns off completely is because one has declared her right in his sight. Neither of them is wrong, neither of them is stupid, they can both see the flaws, but one of them declares her… all right. (Note: I must say it, YES, of course this works both ways… not picking on girls… well… I am for the sake of example. Deal with it)
This is how God forgives sin and this is how we sinners deal with each other; we’re not ignorant of the sin (it’s there!), but we look over the sin because of our love.
Everybody will come into a relationship with some kind of regret, could be big or small. The question, then, is what shall we do about it?
God has put His grace on you and the Bible calls that a gift. Now, a gift is a gift. There is one rule when it comes to a gift, you don’t pay for it and you don’t pay it back. Though, there is one natural response to a gift and it may be misconstrued as paying the person back; you love the giver more. Naturally. And, to bring it closer to our theme of justification, we grow in trust towards the giver or, to put it in more “Biblical” terms, we grow in faith.
Faith is a great theme of the Bible. The Apostle Paul says that Abraham believed God (had faith) and it was counted to Him as righteousness. Well, what does that mean? Perhaps Adam & Eve can help here. One of the first acts of God, when dealing with those two after they sinned, was clothing their shame with the skin of an innocent animal. Surely anyone who knows the gospel can pick up what is happening here! One of the greatest gifts that abound from the cross of Jesus (and, probably, the greatest gift for someone who has undergone physical or sexual abuse) is the taking away of our shame by the clothing of Jesus’ righteousness. And how do we get that righteousness? Going back to Abraham, we get it by believing God. Not believing IN God, but believing what He says. This has often been called “The Great Exchange,” we give our sin to God and He gives us His own righteousness.
All of that to say this: Faith is important. It’s what makes us right with God and it’s what makes us right with each other.
For the sake of example, let’s say a girl feels shame, big or small, doesn’t matter, she’s feeling it. Along comes a guy, she’s been chosen and pursued by him and now they are together. He’s not dumb and neither is she. Both of them have sin in their life, but now what to do with it? The answer is faith.
If ever a guy or girl is going to make it in a relationship they have to come to grips with the reality of when the other person is declaring them “all right,” they are, in fact, all right. Regardless of sin, situation, blah, blah, blah, they are all right.
How silly would it be for a person to keep bringing up a sin, a shame, a regret to the other when the other has already dealt with it through love? What each person must do is go into the relationship like a Christian; live by faith:
“I have faith that you declare me all right,” says she.
“I have faith that you declare me all right,” says he.
: God isn’t blind and I’m not stupid; I know I’ve sinned. But if He declares me all right am I going to keep sin as the main focus of our relationship? Of course not. Sin is not the foundation of our relationship; love is.
Let God’s justifying love for you be the foundation of all romantic endeavors.